When Did I Really Feel Like a Grown-Up?

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When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?

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The true answer is at the end.

“I felt like a grown-up the moment I realized I couldn’t carry it all alone, and I handed my life over to God.”

Most people can point to a moment—a first paycheck, graduating college, buying their first car—and say, “That’s when I felt like an adult.” For me, that moment was… complicated. Truthfully, my life and personality have always been a bit backwards compared to most. People used to tell me I was an old soul, and they weren’t wrong.

Being the youngest child in a large Italian extended family, life came with its own unique rhythm. My parents had me when they were older. Family gatherings weren’t just casual Sundays—they were full-scale events with cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and friends of the family, all talking over each other, gesturing wildly, and offering opinions on everything from marriage prospects to career choices. I was the youngest, but somehow, people treated me like I had wisdom well beyond my years. Maybe it was my quiet observation, maybe it was my natural focus, or maybe it was just that I never played the same games as the other kids. Whatever it was, I felt like a tiny adult in a world of chaos, watching and learning, storing up lessons nobody knew I was absorbing.

While my peers were trading baseball cards or playing stickball in the street, I was thinking about money, business, and independence. I had older friends, older tastes, and an uncanny focus on responsibility that probably made my teachers and relatives nod with approval—or perhaps confusion. Trouble? I didn’t know it. Risky games? Playing sports?, waste of my time, Not my style. Drinking and parties as a teen? , never. I was always a step ahead—or maybe just a step apart. I was focused on my future even as a young child. I knew what I wanted very early in life,

Life didn’t slow down to give me the luxury of adolescence. I skipped collage and married before 21, a child of my own not long after, and owning my own properties before most people my age even thought about mortgages. Responsibility came crashing in like the aroma of Sunday gravy filling the kitchen—inescapable, powerful, and all-encompassing. Each property I acquired was more than just a financial move; it was a statement of independence, a tangible proof that I was capable of managing something far bigger than myself. I was usually the youngest in all of my positions while in corperate America.

So, when did I really feel like a grown-up? I can’t pinpoint a single moment because adulthood didn’t arrive all at once. It was more like a slow climb, each milestone stacking on the last—my first night awake with a crying baby, balancing bills, managing my first business, work crisis, health crisis and ultimately building multiple businesses from scratch. Every responsibility or crisis felt like cement in the foundation of this “adult” I was shaping.

But here’s the twist: I retired at 48. Retired, and yet somehow, life granted me the gift of becoming a kid again. Suddenly, the old soul who worried about bills, responsibilities, and “doing things right” found himself chasing sunsets with grandchildren, getting his hands dirty in a garden, training cats like they were little dogs, and laughing more freely than he ever had. The grown-up responsibilities still linger—they never completely vanish—but I learned that being an adult isn’t about denying joy or play; it’s about choosing your own mix of responsibility and fun.

Now, at 69, I live in this delightful paradox. I own multiple properties, manage investments, write blogs, and yes, still think like the old soul I’ve always been—but I also build forts with grandchildren, go fishing most days, workout, hunt for antiques, get lost in photography, and indulge in the small, silly joys of life that my younger self never had time for. Being the youngest in a family that expected so much taught me discipline, observation, and focus—but growing older taught me to savor, to play, and to remember that adulthood is less about age and more about choice.

The truth is simple: I felt like a grown-up the first time I took responsibility for another life and accepted God was the driver. That moment—personal, spiritual, and profound—remains the benchmark for what it truly means to grow up.

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